This conversation prevents guilt on your side and confusion on hers.
If you are looking to treat her to an experience, consider these upcoming local highlights: After a month of showering my mother with love ...
During our conversations, I put my phone away. I asked her about her life before she was a mother, her childhood, and her regrets. I learned things I never knew, turning my mother into a multi-dimensional person rather than just "Mom." This conversation prevents guilt on your side and
I had avoided deep connection with my mother for years because I was afraid that if I let her in, she would consume me. And during that month, when I removed all boundaries, I proved myself right. Not because she is needy, but because healthy relationships require healthy walls. Love without boundaries is not love—it is enmeshment. I learned things I never knew, turning my
Showering someone with love also means validating their feelings and acknowledging their contribution. I made a conscious effort to thank her for specific things she did for me in the past.
Thirty days ago, I made a radical decision. After a lifetime of functional, dutiful love—the kind that sends a birthday card on time and remembers to ask about the doctor’s appointment—I decided to weaponize my attention. Not with anger, but with a terrifying, unapologetic flood of affection.